Do you know what it takes to be a real man? Although the expectations of both men and women have evolved over the last few decades, there are still some fundamental characteristics that most people would agree constitute what it means to be a “real man.”
At the top of that list would be protecting your children in every possible way, including legally.
One of the most difficult things to do is think about the possibility we may die unexpectedly or too early, leaving our children without one of the most important people in their lives.
But stepping up and making a legal plan to protect your children if something should happen to you is one of the best Father’s Day gifts you can give yourself and the people you love.
Here are 10 steps we use to help you get there:
1. List Of Potential Guardians
Identifying the people you would like to raise your children if something should happen to you is the first step. Write down everyone you would consider, and for now, do it separately from your spouse.
2. Prioritize What's Important To You
Write down everything that is important to you when you think about how you want your kids to be raised. Do you want them to be raised with the same values you were raised with? Do you want them to live where they are living now? What about their education? List all your priorities and then rank them in order of importance.
3. Don't Make It About Money
Many people are tempted to turn to the person with the most money as a guardian, but this is your job. You can leave enough money behind to ensure your children are well taken care of by using life insurance, trusts, savings, or a combination of all of these and choose someone other than the guardian of your children to manage these assets for your children until they are old enough to do so themselves.
4. Compare Your Lists
Take your list of potential guardians and compare it with your prioritized list of what’s important to you, then rank the list of guardian candidates. You should wind up with a list of at least three good candidates that match your prioritized values.
5. List People You Don't Want Raising Your Kids
Think about all the people who may be in line for custody in case something should happen to both you and your spouse or co-parent and then create a list of those people you would never want raising your kids.
6. Exclude The People You Don't Want As Guardian In Writing
Write a confidential letter of instruction outlining who you would never want to raise your kids and why. This letter will be sealed away unless someone on the list tries to gain custody. Having that letter will make it less likely those people would want to pursue a claim in court.
7. Name Temporary Guardians
We all hate to think that this could happen to us, but we know it happens to others like us every day — couples leave their children with a babysitter and get into a terrible accident. The babysitter calls and calls, but there is no one to answer. The police are summoned and the children have to be placed with Child Protective Services. It's terribly frightening. To prevent this, you can name local temporary guardians who can take over in these circumstances until long-term guardians are appointed.
8. Make It All Legal
Once your choices are made, you will need to legally document them. If you don’t, a judge will make these decisions for you. We can help you create a comprehensive Kids Protection Plan® as well as other estate planning essentials like a will, powers of attorney, health care directives, and even a trust that will ensure your plan is done right and will last for as long as you need it. You can begin this process yourself at www.KidsProtectionPlan.com and then contact us for the rest of your planning.
9. Make A Plan For Your Assets
Once you’ve taken care of your children, be sure you take care of your assets. We can explain how a trust can be used to bypass the court system and protect your assets.
10. Leave More Than Money
Your lasting legacy should be much more than just money; it should also be those valuable intangibles that reveal who you are through your insights, values, and experience. We make this possible as part of your legacy planning process, helping you capture and pass on your own story and your aspirations for your loved ones through a special recording we produce for each of our clients.
Today, millions of children live with grandparents. Considering the advanced age of most grandfathers helping to raise their grandchildren, it is even more imperative to put a plan in place to protect these children.
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