What that means is that they would have to go to court to get access to your financial accounts, be able to pay your bills, and make financial decisions when you can’t. 

We've seen this happen far too often. We've gotten calls from clients' adult children who are standing at a bank counter, valid POA in hand, being told the document is "too old" or that the bank has its own form. By the time anyone calls me, they're in crisis mode, and the options are much more limited than they would have been six months earlier.

Our job is to make sure that never happens to your family.

WHAT WE SEE WHEN THE PLAN ISN'T COMPLETE

Here's the scenario we hear most often. A parent has a stroke. The adult child, named as an agent on a durable POA for years, goes to the bank to pay bills, cover care expenses, and keep the household running.

An estate plan ensures any medical decisions needed while away from home  will be handled according to your wishes, and with as much ease as possible, no matter what the rules are where something happens. If you fall ill or become injured and can’t make medical decisions for yourself, your estate plan will ensure that decisions will be made by the person you choose, and with your indicated desires for your care at the forefront.

Without an estate plan in place, your family or friends could have a heavy lift to get you back home, locate your assets, keep your bills paid, and even ensure your children get taken care of by the right people in the right way.

Lastly, an estate plan ensures that any debts or liabilities are taken care of properly in case something happens while on vacation. This can help prevent creditors from trying to collect from surviving family members after the fact — something no one wants to deal with during such a difficult time.

And a story that's been playing out in the courts since 2022 shows exactly what that looks like up close.

When actress Anne Heche died following a car accident in August 2022, she left behind an estate with about $110,000 in assets and more than $6 million in creditor claims, incomplete financial records, and a son in his early twenties who suddenly found himself appointed by a court to sort it all out. As of early 2026, that estate is still not closed. Nearly four years later, the family is still in the middle of it.

That's what happens without a plan. And the good news is, it doesn't have to happen to yours. Here's what this story reveals about poor recordkeeping, the burden placed on young adults, what creditors can do to an unprotected estate, and why the right planning makes all the difference.

IS YOUR FINANCIAL LIFE A MYSTERY, EVEN TO YOU?

One of the most quietly devastating details in the Heche story is this: her son Homer couldn't account for all of her assets and income because the records simply weren't there.

One option you might be considering for protecting your assets from these events is a prenuptial agreement.

However, even bringing up a prenup can be a romance killer that creates friction and distrust before the marriage even begins. And if it’s not properly created and executed, a divorce court can invalidate the asset protections offered by a prenup, so such agreements don’t exactly provide airtight protection.

Plus, a prenup would do nothing to keep your family out of court and out of conflict should you become incapacitated or when you die, which is something everyone who gets married needs to consider.

That said, prenups aren’t your only option. With proactive estate planning, for example, you can structure your assets in such a way that not only protects them from being lost to divorce, but also provides for both your future spouse and any children you may have from a previous marriage in the event of your death or incapacity.

You may also be worried that suggesting a prenuptial agreement could hurt your future spouse by making him or her feel as if you don’t trust them, thereby creating friction before the marriage even begins.

While such concerns are valid, you should know that prenups aren’t your only option for shielding your assets from these scenarios. With a well-designed estate plan, for example, you can structure your assets in such a way to keep what you have safe, provide for your future spouse in the event of your death, and also protect your assets in the event of a divorce. In this way, you can avoid having the prenup conversation all together.

We do recommend talking with your future spouse about your assets, what would happen in the event of your death, and also making plans in advance so you can feel confident that any children from a prior marriage (or an expected inheritance) are well-planned for no matter what happens. In this two-part series, we'll first discuss the pros and cons of prenuptial agreements, and then in part two, provide estate-planning alternatives you may want to consider.