This is a recipe for disaster because this means that the lawyer you are considering hiring is likely not versed in helping you make well-counseled decisions that you fully understand, and does not have a business model in place to support you in choosing what matters to you, and then pricing your planning accordingly. One-size fits all pricing (or hourly billing) for a set of documents is a red flag that you may not be working with the right lawyer on your estate plan. 

Our Life & Legacy Planning Process and the initial Life & Legacy Planning Session is the opposite. We don’t begin with a meet and greet style initial consultation. Instead, it’s a working meeting designed specifically to understand your family dynamics, your assets and how the law would apply in your unique situation, and then provide you with counseling frameworks for decision-making that leave you knowing you have made thoughtful, empowering choices for yourself and for the people you love. Importantly, it ensures your planning documents will work when your loved ones need them most. 

In this blog article, you'll read real stories of families who struggled through the legal and financial process alone, the challenges they faced, and why having the right lawyer, as a trusted advisor to you and your loved ones, makes all the difference for the people you love when they need it most. Let's start by looking at what actually happens when families are left to navigate the process on their own.

REAL STORIES OF LEGAL CHAOS

The best way to understand why your loved ones need guidance when something happens to you is to see what happens when people  don't have good guidance. These are real stories about real people. They aren't hypothetical scenarios:

Molly's Seven Handwritten Wills

Molly thought writing down her wishes would be enough to pass on her assets the way she wanted. After her death, her family found seven different handwritten documents she wrote on her own. By the time an attorney was hired to sort out the mess these handwritten notes created, fourteen heirs were claiming rights to the estate. Twelve estranged family members suddenly appeared, and one intended beneficiary was ready to give up and split everything with relatives Molly barely knew. Perhaps Molly thought her situation was simple, and yet it turned out to be anything but that. We find that’s often the case. Many people say “oh, my situation is simple” and, yet, for the people you love, it can be anything but simple once you are gone.

According to AARP, more than 16 million adults over 65 now live alone, and 77% report having no plan for living assistance as they age. At the same time, even when family members are nearby, the realities of aging can strain relationships in ways few expect.

In this article, you’ll learn why it’s risky to assume someone will “just step in,” how the transitions of aging affect both you and your loved ones, and how creating a comprehensive Life & Legacy Plan ensures your care, dignity, and autonomy no matter what the future holds.

THE NEW REALITY OF AGING ALONE

Imagine being in your 80s and realizing you haven’t seen another person for two weeks. For many older adults, that isn’t a nightmare—it’s daily life. In rural areas like the Appalachian Mountains, nonprofits such as Mountain Empire Older Citizens deliver meals and provide essential care because so many elders live in isolation. Workers often describe being the only human contact their clients have.

(See estimated $25 million estate.)

This story demonstrates that wealth and fame can't substitute for the kind of planning that actually protects families from conflict and preserves relationships. Even with millions of dollars and access to the best legal advice money can buy, the Hogan family still experienced the pain that comes when estate planning focuses on documents rather than relationships.

Let's explore what went wrong and how proper Life & Legacy Planning® could have prevented this heartbreak.

What Happened in the Hogan Family

To understand the magnitude of this family tragedy, let’s analyze what happened. Brooke Hogan is Hulk’s daughter from his first marriage. But she wasn't just his daughter—she appears to have been his devoted caregiver. According to reports, she was there for every surgery he had, she’d take detailed notes from every doctor who treated her father, and coordinated his medical care through multiple health crises. She even moved from Michigan to Florida to be closer to her father.

This isn't a hypothetical scenario—it's exactly what happened to the Rowland family in Ohio. In this article, you'll discover the costly mistake that devastated this family's legacy, why it's becoming an increasingly common problem for wealthy families, and most importantly, how to make sure it never happens to yours.

When "Good Enough" Estate Planning Becomes a Family Nightmare

Billy Rowland was the kind of guy who wore a "World's Greatest Grandpa" cap and spent his life building something meaningful. Over decades, he expanded his small businesses across Ohio—trucking, used cars, real estate, banking. He served on charity boards and seemed to have his financial house in order.

When Billy's wife Fay died in 2016, her estate filed the required tax return to preserve her unused estate tax exclusion for Billy's future use. It seemed like routine paperwork. The return estimated her estate's value and listed various assets—real estate, business shares, the usual suspects.